The Journey to Understanding ADHD


Welcome, whether you’re a parent of a child with ADHD, someone dealing with adult ADHD, or just looking to learn more about ADHD. This is a safe and supportive space where we acknowledge the courage it takes to seek knowledge, ask questions, and begin your journey towards understanding and managing Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

ADHD is common, affecting many children and adults, but it can often feel overwhelming due to its unique presentation in different individuals. Some may exhibit many symptoms of ADHD while others only a few. It can seem like an insurmountable challenge, but with understanding, knowledge, and support, the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD become within reach.

We recognize that ADHD isn’t a solitary experience. It impacts not just the individuals diagnosed with it—children and adolescents, adults alike—but also their family, friends, teachers, and colleagues. We understand the struggles, misconceptions, exhaustion, but also the resilience, dedication, and triumphs. We see you, your efforts, and we are here to offer support.

ADHD Specialist

Debbie Morehead

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & C.A.M.F.T.

Raymond Jones

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

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Victoria Rosa

Registered Associate Professional Certified Counselor

In this article, we cover essential aspects including:

Essential Aspects of ADHD

  • Demystifying ADHD: An easy-to-understand overview of ADHD, including symptoms and causes, as well as how ADHD is diagnosed.
  • Recognizing Signs and Symptoms: How to spot the signs of ADHD in yourself, a child, or others, along with common symptoms in adults.
  • Untreated ADHD: The potential consequences and health risks if ADHD is left untreated, including effects on life and self-esteem.
  • Self-help Tips: Practical ways to manage ADHD symptoms at home, and the importance of seeking professional help before starting any self-help measures.
  • Professional Help: The crucial role therapy plays in the management of ADHD, including various therapy approaches and the use of ADHD medications.

The path to understanding and managing ADHD is not linear. It’s a journey often marked by many symptoms, different therapeutic approaches, and sometimes, the need for ADHD medications. But with knowledge and supportive resources, it becomes less daunting. Let’s embark on this journey together, one step at a time, towards a better understanding of ADHD and its comprehensive treatment.

Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and help is always available. Whether you’re a young child with ADHD or an adult dealing with the disorder, there is a community and resources ready to assist you.

Overview: Unraveling ADHD

ADHD, or Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, is a neurodevelopmental disorder that can begin in childhood and often continues into adulthood. It is characterized by persistent patterns of inattention, impulsivity, or hyperactivity that interfere with a person’s daily life and functioning. To put it simply, individuals with ADHD may find it challenging to stay focused, control impulsive behaviors, or be overly active.

There are three types of ADHD that are generally recognized:

Inattentive type:


This form manifests in symptoms like difficulty paying attention to details, often seeming not to listen when spoken to directly, and frequent challenges with organizing tasks and activities.

Hyperactive-impulsive type


This variant is marked by symptoms such as restlessness, excessive talking, and difficulty in waiting turns.

Combined type


As the name suggests, this type combines symptoms of both inattention and hyperactivity-impulsivity.

While ADHD is a common condition, the way it presents can be unique to each individual. The challenges you or your loved one face are real and valid, but they do not define you or your capabilities.

Understanding the prevalence of ADHD can provide some comfort – you’re not alone in this journey. Statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reveal that approximately 9.4% of children in the U.S. have been diagnosed with ADHD. It also affects about 4.4% of U.S. adults.

Despite the challenges, many people with ADHD lead full, productive lives. The journey begins with understanding. Let’s take this step together towards deeper comprehension and acceptance of ADHD.

Signs and Symptoms: Decoding ADHD

Identifying ADHD, whether in a child or adult, can feel like trying to solve a dynamic puzzle—the pieces, the signs and symptoms, can be diverse and they can shift over time. This section decodes some of these pieces, considering how ADHD is diagnosed and how symptoms may manifest differently in children and adults.

    • smiling-portrait-girl-female-psychologist-having-conversation-office Common Symptoms of ADHD: Among the most frequently reported signs of ADHD include persistent distractibility, difficulty focusing on one task, impulsivity, forgetfulness in daily activities, and excessive movement or talkativeness. As Dr. Edward Hallowell, a leading expert on ADHD, profoundly stated, “The hallmark of the ADHD mind is not deficit of attention but abundance of it. It’s an abundance of attention going in many directions at once..”1 This rings true for many children and adults with ADHD.
    • Differences Across Ages: ADHD symptoms in children can look different from those in adults or adolescents with ADHD. In young children, ADHD often manifests as trouble following instructions, difficulty staying organized, or frequent daydreaming. Teenagers may struggle with managing time, staying organized, or maintaining focus on tasks. Adult ADHD can lead to chronic lateness, difficulty managing stress, or trouble keeping up with responsibilities. Remember the wise words of Stephen Covey: “Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.”2 This principle applies to ADHD as well; the condition’s manifestation can differ from person to person and across different ages.
    • ADHD vs. Normal Behavior: Everyone can be forgetful or impulsive from time to time. However, when such behaviors become frequent and interfere with daily life, school, work, or relationships, it might be indicative of ADHD. As clinical professor of psychiatry Dr. Russell Barkley puts it, “ADHD is not a problem of knowing what to do, but of doing what one knows.”3

It’s important to consult with a professional if you suspect you or a loved one may exhibit many symptoms of ADHD. A proper ADHD diagnosis can provide clarity and guide the path to appropriate support and strategies to manage symptoms effectively.

Always remember that having ADHD, be it hyperactive-impulsive ADHD or other subtypes, doesn’t define a person’s worth or potential. It’s simply a different way of processing the world. With the right support and strategies, individuals—children and adolescents with ADHD, adults with ADHD—can thrive in all aspects of life.


  1. Driven to Distraction (Revised): Recognizing and Copelling with Attention Deficit Disorder by Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey
  2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
  3. Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents by Russell A. Barkley

Untreated ADHD: The Unseen Implications

Like many conditions, ADHD, particularly when left untreated, can ripple through various aspects of life. It’s crucial to understand these potential challenges—not to instill fear, but to underscore the importance of early ADHD diagnosis and appropriate management strategies.

  1. Impact on Life: ADHD can touch multiple areas of life. Here’s how it may influence:


Students, particularly children and adolescents with ADHD, might struggle with focusing, staying organized, or completing tasks. Noted author and speaker, Dr. Thomas E. Brown, once said, “ADHD is not a problem of willpower, laziness or disobedience. It’s a problem with the dynamics of the chemistry of the brain.” With support and understanding, these young individuals can navigate these challenges effectively.



Adults with ADHD might face difficulties in managing time, staying organized, maintaining focus on tasks, or following through on projects. However, ADHD in adults can also be a strength, allowing them to excel in dynamic and creative roles that leverage their ability to think outside the box.



ADHD can sometimes affect relationships, often due to miscommunications or misunderstandings about the behavior associated with the condition. Parents of children with ADHD and partners of adults with ADHD must remember that everyone deserves understanding, patience, and support.



Patients with ADHD, including children and adults alike, may experience feelings of frustration or believe they are not living up to their full potential. As notable psychologist Carl Rogers once said, “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.” Success looks different for everyone, and everyone moves at their own pace.

  1. Health Risks: Untreated ADHD can be associated with certain health risks. Some studies suggest potential links between untreated ADHD and increased risks of substance use disorders, accidental injuries, and other mental health conditions like depression and anxiety disorders. However, it’s crucial to stress that ADHD, when diagnosed and managed appropriately, doesn’t automatically lead to these outcomes.

We explore these potential consequences of untreated ADHD not to provoke fear but to highlight the importance of seeking support. Receiving a diagnosis of ADHD and treating it can significantly enhance quality of life, offering tools and strategies to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and resilience.

Basic Self-Help Tips: Empowering You Against ADHD

happy-schoolboy-standing-school-campus Coping with ADHD can sometimes feel like steering a ship through a stormy sea. But remember, you’re the captain, and there are many strategies at your disposal to find smoother waters. Implementing a few self-help tips can make a substantial difference. However, always consult with your licensed therapist or healthcare provider before making any changes to your ADHD treatment or management strategies. Here are some suggestions that might be helpful:

  • Structure and Routine: Consistency often proves crucial for managing ADHD symptoms. Establishing daily routines creates predictable patterns, which can help in handling ADHD. As eminent ADHD specialist, Dr. Russell A. Barkley, suggests, “Those with ADHD often succeed when they can see the steps they need to take to achieve a goal.”1 This might include set times for meals, exercise, work or study, rest, and sleep.
  • Physical Activity and Nutrition: Keeping your body active and well-nourished can have positive effects on ADHD symptoms. Regular exercise can help improve concentration, reduce impulsivity, and promote relaxation, while a balanced diet supports overall brain health.
    1. Exercise: Aim to incorporate a form of physical activity you enjoy into your routine—this could be dancing, walking, yoga, or team sports.
    2. Nutrition: Strive for a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains. Some research also suggests that omega-3 fatty acids, found in fish and flaxseeds, may be beneficial2.
  • Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Incorporating mindfulness and relaxation practices can be helpful in managing ADHD symptoms. These practices can improve focus and help manage stress. Simple techniques such as deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or a few moments of mindful meditation can make a difference.
  • Seeking Support: Navigating the journey of ADHD is not something you need to do alone. Reach out to supportive friends, family, or join ADHD support groups. As the African proverb says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”3 It’s okay to ask for help when you need it.

These tips serve as starting points, but remember, everyone’s journey with ADHD is unique. Always consult with your licensed therapist or healthcare provider before implementing any new strategies. And remember, achieving success with ADHD management comes with patience and perseverance.


  1. Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents by Russell A. Barkley
  2. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Omega-3/Omega-6 Fatty Acids by Sorgi PJ, Hallowell EM, Hutchins HL, Sears B.
  3. African Proverb, widely attributed.

Seeking Professional Help: Partnering with Therapy on Your ADHD Journey

ADHD TherapyWhile self-help techniques can make a significant difference in managing ADHD, the guidance of a professional often proves invaluable. A shared journey tends to be lighter and often more successful. Here’s how collaborating with a therapist can contribute to your ADHD journey:

  1. The Role of a Therapist: Therapists offer a secure environment to explore and comprehend your unique experience with ADHD. They can assist in developing personalized coping strategies, enhancing self-esteem, and navigating relationships and everyday life challenges impacted by ADHD. As Dr. Edward Hallowell, a leading authority on ADHD, reassures us, “ADHD is not a sentence, it’s a series of challenges, and with each challenge comes the opportunity for creative victory.”
  2. Cognitive-behavioral therapyDifferent Therapeutic Approaches: Therapists employ various strategies for ADHD management. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be beneficial in improving organization, planning, and emotional regulation. Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) can also be effective in managing attention and impulsivity. Remember, every person’s experience with ADHD is unique, and the most effective approach will depend on your specific needs and circumstances.
  3. Medication: For some individuals, medication can be a significant component of ADHD management. However, it’s vital to note that medication is typically most effective when complemented by therapy and lifestyle adjustments. It isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution but an integral part of a comprehensive treatment plan.
  4. Encouraging TherapyEncouragement: If you or a loved one is grappling with ADHD, consider reaching out to a professional for an assessment and to discuss potential treatment options. It’s never too late, nor too early, to seek help. As motivational speaker Les Brown affirms, “You don’t have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be great.”2
  5. Local Resources: Our therapy practice boasts a team of dedicated professionals skilled in ADHD management. We’re here to support you on your journey. To learn more about our services and how we can help, visit our services page. Remember, reaching out is the first step toward enhancing your life with ADHD.

Dealing with ADHD can indeed be challenging, but with the right support and strategies, it doesn’t have to dictate your life. You are not alone on this journey, and professional help is readily available and accessible.


  1. Driven to Distraction (Revised): Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder by Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey
  2. Les Brown, motivational speaker and author. Quote widely attributed.

Conclusion: You're Not Alone

medium-shot-smiley-kids-gym Charting a course through the unpredictable waters of ADHD can sometimes feel like a lonely voyage. But remember, you’re not alone, and assistance is always within reach. As we wrap up this enlightening exploration of ADHD, let’s recap some pivotal points and conclude with a message of hope and direction:

In this article, we’ve endeavored to illuminate the subject of ADHD—its nature, common indicators, and the potential repercussions if left untreated. We’ve also touched upon some fundamental self-help tactics, while consistently underscoring the critical role of professional guidance. Please note, all these strategies should be applied in consultation with a licensed therapist.

Your journey with ADHD is distinctly your own, speckled with unique hurdles and triumphs. However, it’s essential to remember that it’s not just okay, but indeed beneficial and often crucial, to seek assistance. Managing ADHD is an ongoing journey, not a final destination. As the British writer Neil Gaiman rightly pointed out, “The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision.”1 You are uniquely equipped to traverse your ADHD journey, particularly with the right support and guidance.

At CrossRoads Family Therapy, we’re here to support you on your path. If you, or someone you cherish, are dealing with ADHD, we warmly invite you to get in touch. Let’s collaborate to make this journey less about managing an “impediment” and more about leveraging the unique strengths inherent within you.

Life with ADHD can present its challenges, but it can also be filled with innovation, resilience, and personal triumphs. So, as you step forward from this point, remember: you are not alone, and assistance is just a phone call or email away.


  1. Neil Gaiman, Make Good Art (2012).


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